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Sexy or comfortable?

September 23, 2019

A lot of women ask themselves this question when they look in their closets or browse the women’s section of a department store.

On the one hand, you don’t want to sacrifice your femininity. But on the other hand, you do want to avoid clothes that constrict, pinch, or show more than you want when you move around. Ideally, you want to find clothes that are both sexy and easy to wear.

First and foremost, your clothes should be comfortable

So it’s best to choose fabrics made with natural fibers like cotton, viscose, silk, and wool. Not only do these materials feel good, but they also allow the skin to breathe.

I’m a big fan of clothes. But when I go shopping and see those monstrosities made of mostly synthetic fabric—many of which are lined—I have to wonder if the manufacturers have ever worn dresses like this themselves. For me, lining is one of the deadly sins of today’s textile industry. Adding an extra amount of air between the inner and outer layers of a dress is totally unsexy!

In the meantime, you want to look for clothes that show off your best parts. If you have nice legs, feel free to wear dresses on the shorter side. If you have great cleavage, there’s nothing wrong with a generous neckline. Again, above all, your clothes should feel comfortable! Why? If an outfit looks great but feels awkward, it’ll most likely end up as a one-day outfit.

Tight black pants made of viscose with a touch of spandex suit every woman and create a slimming effect. Combine them with black ballet flats or high-heels, and you can easily go from daytime comfort to nighttime glamor. They’re also easy to mix and match with a range of tops, from bold blouses to business-like blazers.

Have fun in your clothes!

Voilà!

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Menopause – a myth?

I think of the term “menopause” as a fictional diagnosis.

In fact, there are regions in the world where the term is virtually unknown. For example in Asia. In Western countries, on the other hand, menopause is not only considered a big deal, but it’s also presented as source of suffering for women.

However, I would argue that the phase of life in which women no longer have the biological ability to get pregnant is far less dramatic from a physiological point of view than many believe.

Even during menopause, women retain over half of their female hormones.

At the same time, the male hormone testosterone starts to take over. As a result, many women suddenly feel a greater desire for sex. As the saying goes: “There’s no fox like an old fox.”

A lesser-known fact is that men are much worse off than women as they age. Why? As their testosterone levels drop over time, men lose part of their sex drive—and this isn’t something they can restore naturally.

For women, on the other hand, it’s possible to find substances in the plant world that replicate the effects of female hormones. First and foremost, I want to mention soy, the miracle plant. Tofu and its cousins are outstanding sources of phytoestrogens (estrogen derived from plants). In addition, there’s a whole range of plants, including yam root, that can create effects similar to the female hormone progesterone.

These plant-based substances make it possible for women to balance out hormonal deficits in their bodies.

Whatever your gender, if you believe you’re going through “menopause”:

Two “S’s”—sports and sex—

are the most effective things you can do. Both activities create a hormone release that helps keep the body balanced and fit. If you often work up a sweat during sports or sex, hormone-related sweating becomes less and less of an issue.

Ultimately, it’s up to us as individuals to determine whether or not we’re going through “menopause.”

My gender-neutral prescription for “menopause” is:

Exercising 3 times per week
Having sex 2 times per week
A tasty tofu-based dish 2 times per week
And for women: Yam root supplements in the form of tea or skin gel, 2 weeks per month.

Voilà.

Live out your sexuality

I’d like to focus on female sexuality in this post.

This is still a taboo topic, and it’s often perceived as unimportant or secondary. I particularly want to address the meaning and significance of sexuality for women during their prime. After all, sexuality isn’t something that only belongs to the young and beautiful.

We know that sex represents “the world’s greatest pasttime” for men. But what does it represent for us?

First of all, I’d like to clarify the biological foundations of female sexuality. The statement that “female sexuality is practically inexhaustible” hits the nail on the head.

Of course, this statement doesn’t refer to the prerequisites for getting pregnant. As we know, they are limited. However, as women, we have the potential to retain the ability to reach sexual climax into old age. Meanwhile, some men experience a certain decline in their capacity to reach orgasm from their mid-50s onwards.

Besides our ability to achieve climax into old age, here’s the cherry on the sundae for women: the female body is also capable of having an orgasm several times in a row.

Still, many women might say there are more important things in life than sex.

I would argue that this statement comes from having limited experience with satisfying sex, or from banishing sex from our consciousness. For women, sexual climax isn’t just about momentary pleasure. It also creates a hormone release that facilitates health, balance, and external attractiveness.

This is reason enough to come to terms with your own sexuality.

At the same time, it’s important to take a look at your sexual partner(s).

Apart from women in happy relationships with satisfying sex lives, there are many women who either don’t have satisfactory sex with their partners or who simply don’t have a sexual partner. In this case, you want to take the responsibility for your sexuality into your own hands—literally.

These days, there are a myriad of ways to find “technical assistance” in this area, depending on your individual preferences. The biggest online retailer in the world has thousands of options available. They work beautifully, giving women the sexual satisfaction their partners might not be able to provide.

However, if you prefer to go without “technical assistance,” i.e. if you prefer to connect with a physical partner to feel satisfied, “sexting” can be a good alternative. But be careful: this approach has the potential to become addictive, so don’t rely on it too heavily.

Here’s my tip: put on your most beautiful lingerie, light some candles, pour yourselves a glass of wine (or not!), pick out your favorite erotic movie or chat for a while—and off you go.

Two times a week is a healthy amount. Have fun!

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Love your fat cushions!

Looking at the paintings from the Rubens era, I ask myself why the ideals of female beauty have changed so much over the years.

The gaunt models on today’s catwalks would have been out of the question as models for artists like Rembrandt. Still, current beauty icons have a huge impact on the world of women today and drive many girls to despair.

On social networks, on billboards, and in the media, fit bodies represent health and attractiveness. They’re showcased as role models, or prerequisites, for happiness.

In that spirit, various diets and sports programs come into play as declarations of war against fat deposits and belly fat—which supposedly cause disease and represent a mortal sin.

Don’t get me wrong: Exercise and a healthy diet can certainly help keep us fit and beautiful.

But the question is: are we allowed to have a little “fat padding” or not? And, if so, how much? My position is clear: Women need a healthy amount of fat padding!

Why? Our fat padding contains a considerable amount of female hormones, especially estrogens, which help keep the body elastic and supple. So if we’re missing fat deposits, we’re also missing a stock of hormones we might need!

On the question of attractiveness: According to a survey, many men find women with curves more attractive than women with flawless, fat-free, ultra-fit bodies.

An ultra-fit body may be considered a sign of athletic prowess. However, when it comes to sexuality, it’s less about athletic performance and more about warmth and relaxation. Read: Live out your sexuality

So, dear ladies, the next time you stand on the scale or look in the mirror and notice a little something pouring over the edge of your panties, stay calm and be kind to yourself. It’s just your curvy femininity, which the old masters knew how to appreciate in their day.

Love your body! And explain to your partner why they should love it, too!