Tag: balance

Reality or Fantasy?

What makes us happy? A very good question to which there are certainly many answers.

A thousand things can make us happy, from a cup of good coffee in the morning to a hug from a loved one.

One thing seems certain: only things that really exist or really happen have real emotional value for us.

On the other hand, we consider the world of dreams or fantasies to be a waste of time and a disappointment if it does not correspond to reality.

But – Is that really the case?

The fact is – our brain cannot clearly distinguish between reality and fantasy.

It experiences ideas just as intensely as real events. An example: imagine a lemon that you would like to bite into. You immediately feel the fragrant peel and the sour taste of the juice on your lips. Your saliva starts flowing. You enjoy the whole process, assuming you’ve had this experience before.

As a result, you are also able to really experience certain experiences and emotions with the help of your imagination. This phenomenon was discovered scientifically a long time ago and is used in psychology. There are mental training programs that help athletes or patients feel better.

Everyone can use the power of imagination.

Are you not 25 years old anymore?
Then close your eyes, take a deep breath and imagine for a moment that it is you! What would happen? How would you feel? Your back straightens. You take one deep breath after another, you would feel energy and drive.
Have you always wanted to be a king or queen?
Then put on your most beautiful suit or dress, walk a few steps like a king or queen, greet your imaginary subjects with dignity. How does that feel? Are you king or queen for this moment?
Does that sound stupid?  You would never do that?

Are dreams of no use? Just the sole acceptance of reality?

It would be a shame to give up dreams! This would result in the loss of a very useful resource – the healing power of our imagination. Because with your imagination you can imagine and live through anything, almost like in reality.  Because needs that are not fulfilled eat away at our soul.

Here are my 5 tips for successful dreaming:

– Allow yourself to dream!
– Accept that some things remain just a dream and that’s a good thing!
– Perform personal, regular dream rituals by finding a quiet place or starting one after wakingup.
– Imagine your desired constellations as precisely as possible: what you want to feel, see or smell and how you feel.
– Enjoy the moment, know that this is good for your body and your soul, regardless of whether the dream comes true or not!
Voilà!
 
 

You can find everything you need within yourself

We want to be seen, loved and recognized, making a good impression.

Natural, understandable and honorable needs. Because we are social creatures, highly dependent on each other.

That’s how nature wants it. On the one hand, it encourages us to improve our personality and appearance. But on the other hand, pressure and doubt arise when the results do not meet expectations.

The word “expectations” contains the word “expect” for someone or something that could make us happy and content.

At the same time, nature has given us our own will and the freedom to make personal decisions. This not only affects actions, but also our feelings.

The expectations of other people are usually self-imposed chains. It’s up to us to get rid of them!

We can limit them and view our own possibilities as “unlimited”.

These options include:
  • Strengthening self-love, in all its facets. The power of self-love
  • To be present and completely with yourself in every moment without giving up control over your own feelings
  •  Planning individual experiences, independent of other people
  •  Creating retreats and visiting them regularly
  •  Respect and care for your own body
  •  Keep the inner dialogue positive
  •  Learning to let it go

Anyone who pays more attention to their inner self and seeks fulfillment and satisfaction there becomes more independent of external influences and other people and retains control over their own emotional world.

This helps you to cope better alone and gives you more calmness in everyday life.

Here are my 5 tips for more freedom and peace of mind:

1. Clearly define your main needs, preferably in writing

2. Ask yourself every day whether these needs can be met on your own

3. Build in beautiful self-love rituals every day: body care, styling, sexual experiences, Live out your sexuality , home-cooked food

4. Accept that you cannot be “everybody’s darling” and that this is a good thing

5. Write down 3 sentences why you can love yourself better than someone else, along the lines of “I can love me better than you can!”

Voilà.